HOW A FLOWER ESSENCE CONSULT CAN HELP YOU

Flower essences may assist you with a vast array of issues. They can assist with simple stress relief, or they can act as agents of profound emotional healing, personal and spiritual growth. A sampling of the problems that flower essences can relieve include the following:

• Low self esteem, lack of confidence; unable to be assertive
• Codependency issues
• Anxiety, fear, and other stress responses - including social anxiety, fear of test taking, fear of public speaking, fear of flying
• Psychosomatic symptoms, or chronic illness which may have an emotional component
• Stuck in negative beliefs, emotions, and behaviors; unable to move ahead with your life
• Hypersensitivity
• Unresolved grief
• Negatively affected by old trauma or abuse
• Negative patterns of behavior in relationships or at work
• Conflicts related to work, life direction, goals
• Unable to access or use your power and potential

To give you a better sense of just how specific flower essences are, and how they can help, let's take the example of codependency. When someone tells me they are codependent, my first step is to find out exactly how they express their codependency. Rather, codependency is made up of one or more of the following issues: 1
  

• Excessive worry and anxiety about others; helping too much, to the detriment of one's own life
• Forgetting to think about yourself
• Constantly putting other people's needs ahead of your own
• Difficulty being assertive with what you want; caving in to outside pressure
• Being a "people pleaser"
• Fear of judgement, criticism
• Low self esteem; feeling undeserving
• Lacking confidence or motivation to do something meaningful with your life

Here are examples of two women, each with different symptoms of codependency,  who were helped by a combination of  flower essences and counseling. There is no such thing as a single "codependency  flower essence" that will work for everyone. Codpendency is really a collection of emotional issues, and there are many flower essences which can speak to some aspect of each issue. My job is to find which  flower essences are the right ones for you.

Example 1

Margarita was a stay-at-home mom, married with three children - two daughters, eight and ten, and a 15 year-old son. Her codependency manifested as dissatisfaction with her life. She was a great Mom, but as her children were growing more independent, Margarita was at a loss over what to do with her time. She had some creative ideas, and loved to write, but no confidence or motivation to do anything about it. She was also angry that her husband didn't spend more time with her, yet had trouble being assertive with him. Margarita did three sessions with me on this topic, involving both counseling and flower essences.

Flower Essences given: The flower essences I gave Margarita included one for people who feel victimized by others; one for strengthening her sense of self esteem; another to reduce self-judgement; and yet another essence specifically to bring out creative expression in women who have been conditioned to subjugate themselves to the needs of others.

 Results: Within a few months, Margarita decided to take a training in working with children in a cutting-edge spiritual program. She wrote a children's book and began to look into getting it published. She stopped feeling angry at her husband, and instead, was able to be assertive and actively negotiate for pleasurable time together.

 Example 2

Ricki spent a lot of her energy and time trying to help her sister, who was always having problems and emergencies. But Ricki was unable to move ahead on her own career plans to write screenplays. Ricki had lots of ideas, but was unable to develop them. She complained of writer's block. She had low self esteem, stemming from her childhood in an alcoholic family.

Flower Essences given: Ricki did two sessions with me spaced over a period of two months. She  received many flower essences, among them: one essence for taking action that supports one's highest truth; one to help her stop absorbing emotions from others (her sister; and another for feelings of inadequacy and depression.

Results: Ricki's depression lifted, she was able to detach from her sister's problems, becoming less codependent. Ricki experienced greatly improved self confidence and self esteem.

Flower Essences given, Round 2: About a year later, Ricki was again having trouble getting to work on her screenplay. At this time, she tested for essences which assisted her in processing childhood feelings of abandonment, resulting in her present inability to commit herself to moving ahead in her life.

Results: After taking these essences for three weeks, Ricki reported a new sense of freedom. She felt that something that was always stopping her from realizing her potential is now gone. She felt "Oh, this is who I really am!" She was able to write again and began submitting her work.

As the above examples illustrate, flower essences can help people make dramatic changes in their lives. However, essences are not magic. Please contact me only if:

• You are comfortable with, or at least open to intuitive, extra-sensory, and energetic modes of healing.
• You are a person of high integrity.
• You are willing to take responsibility for your health; you know that growing and becoming healthy is a process in which you need to fully participate. Essences can help a lot - but they will not do your work for you.
• You know that sometimes you have to go through some discomfort in order to feel better.
• You are looking for ways to grow and fulfill your greatest potential, and are willing to do some work on yourself to get there.
• You know - or at least have an inkling - that who you are extends beyond your physical body.
• You are connected - or want to be connected - to a Spiritual source.